Glad you’re here. Glad you decided to do this for yourself. I find that people willing to take the helping hand and in turn, humble themselves, do better in life than those who don’t.
What is “better?” Well, it’s better than…
Better than…being prideful, greedy, selfish, masking, denial, prideful.
Humility in asking for help is better than all the rest of the “successful” traits.
Humility is simply better than pride and tastes so much sweeter when experienced than does, arrogance or stupidity.
Yes, to be humble is to be wise. Humility shows you that you can benefit from anyone at anytime, so it’s good to listen.
What solves your problem then isn’t the solution, but the next problem.
You want to lose weight, so you starve yourself. Thirty-five pounds later your problem is solved right? You wanted to lose weight right? You should be content now.
But wait, your life is now more miserable than it was before. Why, well, you now have something to lose, or in this case, gain. You could gain the weight back and be the piece of crap you were before.
You can’t go back there. You have to keep the weight off, if not lose more.
You reinforce the belief that only certain versions of yourself are good enough to be admired, the weight-loss part, the thinner legs and slightly flatter stomach. You have to depend on the weight loss to make you happy because it cost you so much.
But you still aren’t happy.
So you get fat again and say “I accept me for me.” But now you are the model of yourself you so harshly judged when you were thinner, when you “had it all together.”
Your willpower was used to get you something you thought you wanted. But you were lied to. Your solution to your identified problem is now your new problem and so on and so forth.
Humble yourself and allow yourself to see moment to moment what you live for, and be really honest about it.
You wanted to be sexy, wanted to be wanted, looked at, coveted. Maybe you nobilize that you wanted to feel better, and that might be true. But honestly, what is your problem, other than the fact that you are living for things you think you should live for. You assess yourself based on a measuring stick that was formed from your environment.
Your pride says you know what to do. Your god-like self says that you alone came up with the solution. Your worst and most destructive parts have led you to a false sense of control that is actually a jail cell.
I promised you this post would solve your problems. SO here it goes. It’s not the problem your mind tells you is a problem that needs to be solved. You don’t need to lose weight. You don’t need to be better. You need to identify the underlying repetitive narrative that tells you the same thing-feeding you what the problem is. You need to see your brain and body for what they are and stop trying to solve and fix. The resolve here is to sit and wait.
Yes, patience and quiet.
You create more problems by doing too much. Life isn’t measured in how much work you do. Life is given to us to be experienced and to do so with a mind focused on the highest things.
“Whatever you do in word or deed, do it for the Lord, giving thanks through God the Father” Colossians 3:17.
Serve your highest value in everything and you will discover that your problems are solved because they were never really the problem at all.
From Where I Stand 