Tag: belief

Not a single person I talk to in therapy thinks that social media is a good thing.

People do realize they are heavily influenced, but still want the choice.

Also, people believe they make good choices.

People want to be good and do not respond well when you give feedback on behaviors that indicate otherwise.

People realize the thoughts they are having are unhealthy, but still engage them.

People believe they are their thoughts, that their thoughts define them, that because they think something it must be true to them.

Most realize that money won’t make them happier, but are convinced it will relieve just one of their problems. Just this one, just this time.

WE often know the next, highest role at work will require more, but justify it because “this is the way.”

People don’t want to be effective; they want to be right, they want to win.

You aren’t going to convince people through your arguments.

Actions that lead to a person’s experience. Experience Experience draws us in; we gravitate towards what we experience as pleasureable.

You can have all the “right” arguments and still be “wrong” for the way you share them.

Most people don’t want you to solve their problems; they want you to hear them, to feel heard, validated, and commiserated with. Humans way of indicating we are not alone in this life.

If it’s past 8:30 PM (unless you are doing couples therapy with me), you shouldn’t talk about serious things in a relationship, especially if I see you at the gym at 5:00 AM.

It’s not about the money, it’s about what money represents to you. To some, it’s security. To others, it’s freedom. To others still, it shows they are winning- living the good life because of THEIR good decisions.

Nobody needs a 100k vehicle, but 100k vehicles are becoming more regular. We all say we want peace and ease, but then participate in the absurdity of a race towards…..what eactly?

We all want a purpose- to have meaning. Watch little kids; drama is created in the narrative. Watch teenagers; they have an absolute worldview where they demand change. Notice adults who are always in arguments, scrolling on social media, or getting into debt to purchase the latest thing they thought would fix their situation. We create problems to solve them, which gives us more purpose than we realize. If things are too easy, we will create problems. Humans alone will always create destruction.

AI will not take over humanity. We will destroy it and leech out any use of it before it has a chance to actually grow. Take any innovation in human history, and if we could pervert it, we did. Thus, AI doesn’t stand a chance. Humans are deeply flawed and have this way of turning any new thing into something that benefits them no matter the cost to others. We do this effortlessly.

It takes no effort to convince someone to perform a selfish act. Ahh, but a selfless one is praised highly, seen as miraculous.

We don’t really care about a lot of things, but we believe we should care about them.

We are too influenced these days to have organic responses, and thus, I believe, becoming more disconnected from ourselves. How are we supposed to find community if we don’t even know who we are?

People don’t want the couch they saw on TikTok; they want the environment and the life associated with it.

We all believe one of two lies: either we have it figured out the best, or others have it figured out more than us.

Most people, and I do mean most, won’t actually make the change they need to for things to get better. If you understand this then the person in your life you are struggling with is going to require you to accepting them where they are at.

“People go to therapy for those who don’t”

Success has a lot more dependence on chance than people care to admit.

Nobody is self-made, and it’s a delusion of the highest sort to think so.

It’s tough to believe in God. Even if we believe he is sovereign and knows best, even if we believe he cares for us and has our ultimate best interest at heart, we still want to take control of the wheel of a vehicle we have never driven before. We are not rational creatures, but emotional and very ignorant.

Do you think humans throughout history made marvels? Imagine what could have been had we never fallen out of God’s perfect way. We may have actually been smart enough to invest in one another. Smart enough to not need technology and competition for resources- realizing that the God who made us knows us more than we, the finite creatures, ever could.

The good life you think you want isn’t real, but an association of things you’ve put together to believe it is. If you are chasing something material, it’s a lie as to what it will do for you.

The greatest ending to any movie is not that the main character lives, it’s that being alive is put into the finite perspective it is.

Stop romanticisizing things.

Invest in what lasts for eternity.

Some people who truly lived life may go unnoticed, while others seem to have lived fully but did little. If you believe, “seek ye first the Kingdom,” and everything else will follow.

Finding your partner is not going to make you happy. It may actually make your life worse. Enjoy being single. Enjoy not owing that time to someone’s possibly overbearing demands.

Do not get married until you actually know what matters to you and understand how to protect it.

When you start to raise your voice, you sound silly. Stop doing that. If you want to yell because you feel overwhelmed, then go for it, but don’t convince yourself it’s effective- people get too stressed to hear that.

Processed food is often seen as unhealthy, but not eating is also harmful. Hunger and food shortages have caused more deaths than wars. Now, we can maximize calories, which is a blessing. Be grateful, and if something is affecting you negatively, let it go.

Most people suck at being honest with themselves. They don’t know how. They’ve lived a lie so long that they have created a false world with false methods. Liars don’t know what to do otherwise.

If you can’t admit that you’ve done something wrong and why it was wrong, then it’s going to be impossible to keep friends. Spend time learning your shortcomings- lest they take you over.

Nobody is any better or any worse on their own than anyone else. We are all products of more than we are aware of. We did not choose our genetics or what is expressed and when in human history we would have been born. We would have been SS soldiers if given the chance, Cannibals if given another. Murdering “witches” if born at that time. Most of us would have probably owned slaves. Don’t convince yourself you are better than you are.

“Evil” is not the equal alternative to life. Evil was never intended to be a part of the plan for humanity. Evil, then, is more of a cancer to an otherwise healthy person. Evil is not equal to God; the odds are always in God’s favor.

People don’t want to think, they want….who knows….the freedom to do what they want, no matter how stupid it is.

You don’t really know why you do what you do, or what you want, both of which require a deeper understanding of yourself that can only come from a perspective outside of the limits of you. Pray for wisdom.

If you think you know all of something, you are more wrong than the guy who thinks he’s too dumb to get it- at least he’s open to new information.

It’s OK to struggle. It’s OK to be sad. It’s OK to be guilty. It’s OK to be anxious- Instead of trying to sit with all it means to be a human, people want to “fix” what they feel. (Me included, I take medications, I don’t want to feel all of the anxiety in my life).

We can all make the change we need to; we just don’t want to deal with the discomfort of doing so. Just be honest in owning that.

Most people don’t know why they are talking, and show how much life is lived in the subconscious.

We are all terminal- if you discover something that possibly threatens your time, it is no different a condition than you already had (plus or minus a few decades max).

The fortunate people will live long enough to see everyone around them die- life isn’t about staying alive but about living for what matters the most. Many people have lived fuller lives by 20 than an elderly woman who held on to their wealth at 100.

This world is not commanded by God’s will; man decided he didn’t want it that way a long time ago (See Genesis 3). So, quit blaming God for why “bad” things happen.

To oppose God in your music or life makes less sense than ignoring Him altogether. If God is truly greater, you cannot treat Him as less. Therefore, by opposing God, you are challenging something far more powerful and knowledgeable than yourself. The very fact that you resist this power shows it is real and significant enough to oppose.

The bright, eternal flames of Heaven would be the cruelest punishment for a person who didn’t want to be there.

For some people, an early death is mercy- it’s selfish to think otherwise.

If God were cruel, then we wouldn’t know what Cruel was.

We are “made in his image.” Duh, Why He Make us in a lesser image? Therefore, whatever traits we were given would only be in reference to the creator, and we wouldn’t know cruelty as an anomaly, but to be cruel would be to love, and to love as we know it now would be cruel.

Everything changes. Our memories are poor. What REALLY happened is never what ACTUALLY happened.

We all listen to our own thoughts too much. Not all of them need to be considered.

Fear is a good thing; it tells you what matters in life, for we fear losing what matters the most.

If you are addicted to Porn, it’s not a porn issue. Your sights are set too low. You only succumb to the level of temptation you believe to be in service of the most good. Sex is not the most good. Intimacy is not the most good. Thus, admitting to these dominating your life is admitting that the most valuable thing is obviously a low-level desire, and you are going to be stuck in that pit until you realize it’s not the substance that’s the problem, it’s the belief that what the substance provides is better than what God says he offers through faith in Him.

The Bible is the best psychology book ever written. If you share something that isn’t Biblical or aligned with hermeneutic principles of scripture, it’s not going to work….not really.

If you think you are different than your parents, you are blinded. They have influence on you just as influence in them they were not aware of. Stay open to feedback. Reflect.

Tattoos are cool, but so is giving generously to the needy. A good person can do both. With a righteous, well-ordered heart, aligned with God, your decisions will be fruitful.

People evaluate too much; try observing for a while.

You don’t always have to do…being is enough….we do too much.

Discipline in one area will cross into disciplines in other parts of life.

Never underestimate the power of a good, deep breath and a slow exhale. 1….2….3….4…. better.